We are all growing and how different!

Cr: SOOSH

How wonderfully have we been growing through life.

Maybe you noticed it or maybe you didn’t, but you are growing through life.

There is no other way, how can you live a day and not grow? Does that make sense, not to me at least.

Let me tell you a little about how I realised that even though we are all growing, how different it is for each one of us and what made me look at it all differently.

I was sitting on the sofa, with my coffee and trying to have the best of time while sipping it listening to my favourite song. My father while walking across rooms, trying to find his glasses or maybe was on call, I don’t exactly remember.

Song after song, from my most cherished playlist kept playing and I was humming along, sipping coffee and to put it simply, was in heaven!

An hour later, my father sat next to me and we talked about the coffee, how strong it was and how I loved it, just like him. And that is when, the playlist ended and he said to me – “The kind of music you listen to now has changed so much from the last time I saw you.”

That’s it, those words made my mind go poof. Like a cloud, I felt like my mind just faded into the sky.

How I’ve always thought that it is me who was witnessing my father grow old, how his beard turned a little greyer, how wonderfully his face aged and simply how graciously he went along the flow of it all. But right after those words, I thought from his end, his view and what he was witnessing – for a new born, his new born to hold his hand for the first time, take her first step, call him daddy, ride her bicycle, make new friends, discover her passion, move for college, get her first job and so much more. How she went from a caterpillar to a butterfly, how from being her universe he is now one of the many who she cherishes and how from being her only love, he is now one of the most loved ones.

Oh my, it rips my heart out, just to write this, I wonder how he survived it. What I realised that day, in that moment was – “Don’t think of not having enough time or not meeting him more often, but mindfully be present with him when you are with him. Don’t just be physically present, but be there with all your mind and heart.”

It is not the hours that count, what counts is to remember that he is also growing seeing you grow, acknowledge love, cherish his words and just simply love him for who he is. Take a moment to be grateful for the love he’s given or tried to give. 

Yes, you are the hero of your life, but what’s a hero without his/her people?

Cherish them, love them and bloom through life, we are all growing with each other. See the beauty of it all and let the love spread.